At Chilthorne Domer Church School we talk to children about how to build good relationships with their classmates all year round. However, we use Anti-Bullying Week to address some of the key messages around bullying – what it is, how it feels, how to prevent it and what to do if it happens.
Parental understanding and involvement are essential if anti-bullying work is to be effective. We want to share some information which might be useful for parents.
Bullying is when someone hurts you…
Bullying is when someone is hurting or unkind to the same person…
Bullying is not the odd occasion of falling out with friends, name calling, arguments or fights. However these are also serious incidents which would be dealt with by teachers. This could be physical or verbal or it could be done online.
When that happens we need to…
Adults in school will always be ready to listen and help you.
♦ We have Golden Rules to keep everyone safe
♦ We plan lessons, assemblies and displays which teach children about bullying
♦ We celebrate differences and challenge stereotypes
♦ We teach children how to build friendships
♦ We teach children how to be safe online
♦ We support children to develop coping strategies
♦ We encourage children to talk to an adult if they feel that they are being bullied
All children at some point could become a bully or become the victim of bullying. There is no stereotype of a typical bully or a typical victim. Children bully for a variety of reasons:
♦ It might seem funny at the time – they don’t realise that it hurts.
♦ It makes them feel powerful.
♦ They want to impress others around them.
♦ They feel bad about themselves and so they want to make others feel the same way.
♦ They are jealous.
♦ They have been bullied themselves and are taking it out on someone else.
Often, children who bully need support too.
Here are some possible signs and symptoms:
♦ Becoming withdrawn or anxious.
♦ Having trouble sleeping.
♦ Saying that they do not want to come to school.
♦ Some physical signs.
♦ Complaining of feeling unwell.
You know your child better than anyone – if you think something is wrong, encourage them to talk to you about how they feel.
♦ If your child tells you that they think they are being bullied, keep calm. Getting angry can often make children worry even more.
♦ Allow the school to look into your concerns.
♦ Listen to your child.
♦ Where there might be evidence such as text messages or emails, keep these to share them with the school if necessary.
♦ Encourage your child to talk to a trusted adult at school – if they refuse, then offer to talk to the class teacher on their behalf.
♦ Advise your child not to retaliate – this makes the situation worse.
Today one of the most common forms of bullying is cyber-bullying. Many children have access to the internet through mobile phones, tablets and computers. Here are some simple reminders to protect your child from cyber-bullying or other dangers online.
♦ Never share passwords, even with your best friends.
♦ Block people if they are sending messages which upset you.
♦ Don’t reply to nasty messages.
♦ Never give out personal information online.
♦ If you are sent a nasty message or picture, keep it and show a trusted adult.
♦ Think before you send out a message or photo of yourself — these can be shared by others and this is out of your control.
If you’re being bullied, it can feel like there’s no escape. But there are ways to get help and feel better. Whatever’s happening, Childline are here to help you take back control. This website will give you the tools to get the help you need.